Wednesday, February 16, 2011

The Shoe That Doesn't Quite Fit...


This shoe is perfect. Perfect in every sense, look, style, height, except it doesn’t quite fit. We all know the kind of relationship I’m talking about here, the friends with benefits, no strings attached relationships. Because these relationships are perfect in every way but they just don’t quite fit and at the end of the day, you don’t have the shoe or a relationship that fits you perfectly.

You’re perfect for each other, you get each other, you’re best friends, you can talk for hours, sex or hooking up has chemistry that is plain just off the charts. So if it’s all that great why aren’t you in a relationship? Friends with benefits or NSA has become a recent trend these days that most people find themselves in. And sure it works great…for what the first week? You don’t have the same level of commitment that you need to have in a relationship, you can meet up or call each other whenever you want, and you don’t even have to be exclusive. Just like that shoe that doesn’t quite fit. You can deal with it at first, but eventually your toe being crushed all the time doesn’t sound as appealing and the shoe stops looking appealing altogether.

Then god-forbid, you suddenly start wishing that your shoe actually did fit! It suddenly loses it perfect charm, and you realize that your feet actually remember how painful it was to wear it last. That is the problem with Friends with Benefits or NSA relationships, one person will always end up wishing that the shoe actually did fit rather than continue smushing their toe in a shoe that doesn’t quite fit. To keep wearing these shoes just means blisters for your toes, aching feet, and eventual hatred for the shoe that keeps hurting you, no matter how great it is.

Save yourself the trouble, if you find yourself wearing shoes that don’t quite fit, and your other half doesn’t want to help you break them in... well, toss the shoe out. Cause if you keep smushing your toes in shoes that don’t quite fit, how will your feet ever find the shoes that do fit in very way you need them too? 




Thursday, February 10, 2011

Slippers&Shoes


The slipper and shoe, different as day and night. One seeks to keep your feet out in the open and the other seeks to enclose, yet both can be comfortable and excellent pairs of shoes. Must haves in every closet right?

Well like a slipper and shoe, relationships come in all sorts of different styles and purposes. There are multiple ways to look at this, biracial relationships, bicultural relationships, bi-religious couples, or even a couple that doesn’t have any racial, cultural, religious differences, but are as opposite as day and night! What do these all have in common? Well one is the slipper and the other is the shoe. But does that mean they are not comfortable shoes? Absolutely not. In fact, maybe that’s the beauty of their relationship, the fact that they are so different yet both so comfortable. Comfortable in their own soles.

Speaking of being comfortable in your own soles, these relationships are very special. It takes a special type of comfort to be able to open your world to someone who is not like you, yet you’ve managed to find a connection with him or her. First and foremost in these relationships, be comfortable in your own sole, and in fact, accept your differences. Respect your differences, and create a culture, a religion, or a race you want to practice with your significant other.

You are important. Where you come from will never leave you and will always guide your life, therefore, accept it and understand it. Create a value system, or a culture within your own relationship that you want to maintain. You are very lucky because you get a chance to create and celebrate the best of both worlds in your life. Take the good things from your differences, and make them important in your relationship. Celebrate each other; celebrate the life you wish to create. Decide the way you wish to communicate with each other, because after all only the two of you know what’s the best way to be with each other.

In the end, it’s all about a sole-full life isn’t it? :)