Monday, April 25, 2011

Shoes, So to Speak?


Online dating has taken our world by storm these days. The very soles of the relationships that we are seeking today start off at the heels of the technological world. Gone are the days of in person connections and love letter writings. Today, its all about emails, texts, online dating, and other social networks that have brought the world together and made it smaller and larger all at the same time.

So imagine this, you’re out on the prowl one night, and you’ve got your best shoes on and your hottest outfit on. You’re single, ready to mingle, and the world better watch out because you’re out to win. You bump into the perfect someone, 10 on 10, amazing, dressed to match your every style. Then you look down, and notice the laces of their shoes undone or the straps of their heels unbuckled. Automatic illusion shattering. The individual could trip and fall and no longer are they classy and put together.

In the same manner, online dating and networking, someone can have an amazing profile, an amazing picture, and could be the 10 on 10… except when you message them and suddenly they talk in slang. If you are spending more time deciphering the slang that they are talking to you in than processing what they are actually trying to say, you’re going to loose interest fast. Talking in slang breaks the illusion of the 10 on 10, and gives off the shoes unbuckled and too careless to lace. It gives off the vibe that someone will be too careless with you as well. As casual as they are in the language they talk to you in, is how casual they will be in your relationship. Using proper grammar and full sentences show that you are taking the time and effort to get to know someone, you want them to know and understand what you are saying without needing to decipher. You want them to process you and not your language.

Shoes, so to speak, can say a lot about a person. So can your language, so to speak ;)

Sunday, April 24, 2011

The Booty Shoes


The shoes you put on after 9 pm, are never the shoes you stay at home with, they are the shoes that I like to call booty shoes.

How do we distinguish between people in our lives that call us because they are genuinely interested in us and people that just want us for what we so famously call the “booty call”?

Of course we come back to our favorite description, the shoes you wear so late at night are never going to be your home slippers. You wear your hottest heels or your nicest pair of dock martens out to impress and to flirt and have fun. In this same sense, anyone that hangs out with you only at night, or calls you only at night, is not someone you wear your home slippers with. They are what we call the “booty shoes” or the “booty call”.

Anyone that does not take the effort to get to know you when you are wearing your home slippers, is not someone who deserves to see you in your hottest pairs of heels or nicest pairs of dock martens. They care for one thing and one thing only, and that’s booty. They only care to see you look your best, at your best, so why should they get the best of you?

We’re worth more than our best pairs of shoes, and if we are distinguishing between who is a “booty call” and who is a worth more, then we should keep in mind those that make the effort to spend time with us in daylight, get to know us other than the wee hours of the night, are the ones who are truly worth our time, effort, friendships, and energy. And worth our hottest pair of shoes :)



Sunday, April 3, 2011

The Ever-Changing Favorite Shoe


Throughout your life you’ve had a pair of shoes that have been your favorite. Anytime you wear them you feel amazing, look great, and feel great. However, every shoe has a life, and once the life of the shoe is worn out its time to throw them out and find yourself another pair of favorite shoes.

Just like relationships and people that enter your life. For sometime they maybe your favorite person to be with all the time and you may never be able to imagine life without your favorite person. But as we all know, change is constant, and not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. Or be your favorite forever.

So remember that the universe has bigger plans for you than those you have for yourself. You can’t take everyone with you. Send them off with love and well wishes and access to their own plans but send them off nonetheless. Not everyone is a friend but nobody is an enemy. Not everyone belongs in your heart but nobody is heartless. Just hurting. Allow them their hurt. Don’t let them hurt you.

And remember to continue on your journey, even if your favorite shoes are too broken and beyond repair to accompany you. Because in the journey ahead the conditions are rocky and we all deserve a pair of shoes that can protect the soles of our feet through the climb.