The Wedding Shoes

Summertime brings about one of our favorites seasons, Wedding Season! Whether we are single, married, looking, committed, or what have you, we all secretly in our heart of hearts love weddings! From dream shoes to dream man/woman, we have all thought about that big day and dreamed of it to be better than anything. So how do you really even know whether you are getting married to the right person for you or not?

Here is a tip, if you are walking down that aisle or waiting at the altar and suddenly while you are SUPPOSED to be thinking of how lucky you are to be marrying the person of your dreams, you have this thought, “I am making the biggest mistake of my life” or “shoot, I don’t know if I am marrying the right person…” and even if this thought is for the briefest instant, a good majority of people that have divorced, said they had this thought when they walked down the aisle or waited at the altar. I don’t know what percentage; it was some large 80% type statistic, but bottom line, if you have that thought as you are JUST about to get married… Do what you have to do, but realize that the signs leading up to point were all there.

Here are some tips to tell whether you are marrying the right person or not… Does this person understand you? How well do they understand you? How often and how much do you fight? Are you guys public in your fights? Does the world know about how many problems you have? Perhaps its not even the problems you need to watch for, because really what couple doesn’t face problems? Perhaps you just need a good look at yourself and ask yourself is this the one person I want to be with for the rest of my and be there for, for the rest of my life? Most important of all, listen to your gut instincts, we routinely ignore what our insides are screaming at us until we have no choice to listen, by then its too late. So listen to your gut before it’s too late. If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t right.

Don’t forget, marriage isn’t simply a day, you may wear your wedding shoes physically on that one day, but don’t forget, those are the shoes you walk in for life.

The Nude Shoe

In today's fashion generation nude is the new color. It can be spiced up, sexied up, or casual-ed down. Nude makes a fashion statement and played right can take you from casual to special.

Nude goes with all things, and works in all areas... except if we are talking nudity. Nudity is good in only one place... the bedroom. Here is the thing, today the one thing that catches our eye about people we consider for relationships is how much sex appeal do they have. How much skin is this girl showing? How saggy are the guys pants? Is he wearing them too tight or sagging them too much? Is the girl's dress low enough or short enough? To the point where we dress to exacerbate our best bodily features but play down our best inner features.

We forget that there is a charm in coverage and a charm in people that don't need to spruce up their sex appeal just to get attention. Nudity is not the only way to attract attention. In fact the only attention it attracts is the lets get nude together kind. Not the let's get to know each other kind that leads to relationships. Not the kind that puts your personality and kindness on display.

Nude is nude, and absolutely fashionable and great for style. Nudity however is not. Classy relationships have charms in things that are covered and not on display.

classy ^^

trashy ^^

Mismatched Pairs of Shoes

Have you ever found yourself so stressed out in the morning, getting ready for work, not realizing that you put on two different pairs of shoes?

Happens to the best of us. Except now we have the dilemma…which shoe were you trying to wear in the first place? Now your outfit is sending mixed messages to you, to the world, and no one has any clue what fashion trend or style you were trying to pull off.

Just the same, mixed messages in a relationship, or in dating, or when just starting to talk to someone, is never a good sign. We’ve all been there, done that. Maybe even sent a few mixed messages ourselves. If you are trying to figure out if someone likes you or not and keeping needing to justify or clarify what is or what could be, and don’t have a concrete answer… mixed message. If you are trying to figure out if your partner is cheating and suddenly find yourself making excuses for suspicious behavior… mixed messages.

So what to do with all these mixed messages and mismatched shoes? Drop it like it’s hot. You don’t need someone in your life that can’t clearly articulate they want you in their life. You don’t need to deal with someone that is unsure of what they want when you are sure of what you want. Change the shoes, change the outfit, and change the style.

And always remember don’t make someone your priority, when you’re only an option.

Shoes, So to Speak?

Online dating has taken our world by storm these days. The very soles of the relationships that we are seeking today start off at the heels of the technological world. Gone are the days of in person connections and love letter writings. Today, its all about emails, texts, online dating, and other social networks that have brought the world together and made it smaller and larger all at the same time.

So imagine this, you’re out on the prowl one night, and you’ve got your best shoes on and your hottest outfit on. You’re single, ready to mingle, and the world better watch out because you’re out to win. You bump into the perfect someone, 10 on 10, amazing, dressed to match your every style. Then you look down, and notice the laces of their shoes undone or the straps of their heels unbuckled. Automatic illusion shattering. The individual could trip and fall and no longer are they classy and put together.

In the same manner, online dating and networking, someone can have an amazing profile, an amazing picture, and could be the 10 on 10… except when you message them and suddenly they talk in slang. If you are spending more time deciphering the slang that they are talking to you in than processing what they are actually trying to say, you’re going to loose interest fast. Talking in slang breaks the illusion of the 10 on 10, and gives off the shoes unbuckled and too careless to lace. It gives off the vibe that someone will be too careless with you as well. As casual as they are in the language they talk to you in, is how casual they will be in your relationship. Using proper grammar and full sentences show that you are taking the time and effort to get to know someone, you want them to know and understand what you are saying without needing to decipher. You want them to process you and not your language.

Shoes, so to speak, can say a lot about a person. So can your language, so to speak ;)

The Booty Shoes

The shoes you put on after 9 pm, are never the shoes you stay at home with, they are the shoes that I like to call booty shoes.

How do we distinguish between people in our lives that call us because they are genuinely interested in us and people that just want us for what we so famously call the “booty call”?

Of course we come back to our favorite description, the shoes you wear so late at night are never going to be your home slippers. You wear your hottest heels or your nicest pair of dock martens out to impress and to flirt and have fun. In this same sense, anyone that hangs out with you only at night, or calls you only at night, is not someone you wear your home slippers with. They are what we call the “booty shoes” or the “booty call”.

Anyone that does not take the effort to get to know you when you are wearing your home slippers, is not someone who deserves to see you in your hottest pairs of heels or nicest pairs of dock martens. They care for one thing and one thing only, and that’s booty. They only care to see you look your best, at your best, so why should they get the best of you?

We’re worth more than our best pairs of shoes, and if we are distinguishing between who is a “booty call” and who is a worth more, then we should keep in mind those that make the effort to spend time with us in daylight, get to know us other than the wee hours of the night, are the ones who are truly worth our time, effort, friendships, and energy. And worth our hottest pair of shoes :)

The Ever-Changing Favorite Shoe

Throughout your life you’ve had a pair of shoes that have been your favorite. Anytime you wear them you feel amazing, look great, and feel great. However, every shoe has a life, and once the life of the shoe is worn out its time to throw them out and find yourself another pair of favorite shoes.

Just like relationships and people that enter your life. For sometime they maybe your favorite person to be with all the time and you may never be able to imagine life without your favorite person. But as we all know, change is constant, and not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. Or be your favorite forever.

So remember that the universe has bigger plans for you than those you have for yourself. You can’t take everyone with you. Send them off with love and well wishes and access to their own plans but send them off nonetheless. Not everyone is a friend but nobody is an enemy. Not everyone belongs in your heart but nobody is heartless. Just hurting. Allow them their hurt. Don’t let them hurt you.

And remember to continue on your journey, even if your favorite shoes are too broken and beyond repair to accompany you. Because in the journey ahead the conditions are rocky and we all deserve a pair of shoes that can protect the soles of our feet through the climb. 

The Shoe That Doesn't Quite Fit...

This shoe is perfect. Perfect in every sense, look, style, height, except it doesn’t quite fit. We all know the kind of relationship I’m talking about here, the friends with benefits, no strings attached relationships. Because these relationships are perfect in every way but they just don’t quite fit and at the end of the day, you don’t have the shoe or a relationship that fits you perfectly.

You’re perfect for each other, you get each other, you’re best friends, you can talk for hours, sex or hooking up has chemistry that is plain just off the charts. So if it’s all that great why aren’t you in a relationship? Friends with benefits or NSA has become a recent trend these days that most people find themselves in. And sure it works great…for what the first week? You don’t have the same level of commitment that you need to have in a relationship, you can meet up or call each other whenever you want, and you don’t even have to be exclusive. Just like that shoe that doesn’t quite fit. You can deal with it at first, but eventually your toe being crushed all the time doesn’t sound as appealing and the shoe stops looking appealing altogether.

Then god-forbid, you suddenly start wishing that your shoe actually did fit! It suddenly loses it perfect charm, and you realize that your feet actually remember how painful it was to wear it last. That is the problem with Friends with Benefits or NSA relationships, one person will always end up wishing that the shoe actually did fit rather than continue smushing their toe in a shoe that doesn’t quite fit. To keep wearing these shoes just means blisters for your toes, aching feet, and eventual hatred for the shoe that keeps hurting you, no matter how great it is.

Save yourself the trouble, if you find yourself wearing shoes that don’t quite fit, and your other half doesn’t want to help you break them in... well, toss the shoe out. Cause if you keep smushing your toes in shoes that don’t quite fit, how will your feet ever find the shoes that do fit in very way you need them too?